Ben Wah Balls
These are what Ben Wah Balls look like as the adult stimulator and kegel exerciser.
Two small metal balls are usually about .75 inches in diameter but can vary.
Now they come in glass and plastic variations as well.
These are excersize balls only. DO NOT USE THEM DURING INTERCOURSE.
To remove Ben Wah Balls simply sit down and push using your kegel muscles. If you having trouble removing them, try pushing as if you were having a bowel movement.
AGAIN, never use them during sexual intercourse as they could be pushed through your cervix and you will need to have them removed surgically.
AGAIN. DO NOT USE THEM DURING INTERCOURSE.
Safe Sex
I can never say enough about having safe sex. More and more of my customers tell me that they don’t use condoms because “that doesn’t happen to people my age” or “I am only sleeping with one person” Well, guess what? Anyone can contract a sexually transmitted disease and you may only be sleeping with one person but you are actually sleeping with EVERY person that that person has ever slept with.
GET TESTED. USE CONDOMS. BE SURE.
Testing in Canada is free. You need only go to your doctor and ask. Once you are both considered clear (don’t
take their word for it – look at the report) and YOU are monogamous (that means just ONE partner) and you are absolutely certain that THEY are monogamous (still one partner dude) can you even consider condom free sex. That covers the disease part, not the pregnancy part.
To prevent pregnancy, use a condom. They are not 100% but if used correctly, you should not find yourself in the family way. If you are monogamous partners, you can use any prescribed method of birth control you receive from your doctor. The ONLY sure way of avoiding pregnancy is celibacy. Not much fun, but neither is raising an unwanted child. Sex used be fun and worry free but not any more. Wrap it up.
The pill is only a contraceptive not a deterrent for disease transmission. Again, wrap it up.
Just a wee tidbit: A condom will fit over any vegetable including a watermelon. DID YOU KNOW? So a large condom may be more comfortable but not needed unless you are a giant. If you are not giant sized it may slip off during the act and then you could get sick or she could get pregnant and then you will have a giant problem.
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Sex During Pregnancy
When and how can you make love during pregnancy ?
If the pregnancy is proceeding without any problems, there is no reason to stop making love.
Libido and pregnancy
A woman's libido may increase during pregnancy: her oestrogen levels rise and blood flow to breasts 
and genitals is increased. During the first 2 or 3 months however, frequent nausea as well as psychological factors may diminish a woman's libido. It may rise again between the third and the sixth months. Towards the end, libido may diminish again, as sexual intercourse becomes uncomfortable. However, roughly one third of couples continue to make love up to the last few weeks.
Recommended positions
There is no need to change your habits during the first months of pregnancy. But certain positions like the missionary position, where the man's full weight pushes against the woman's belly, may become uncomfortable as early as the fourth month. This becomes an opportunity to try something else! The woman may lie on her partner, with her legs between his thighs.
The "doggy position" (she is on all fours and he penetrates her from behind) requires little effort. It is advised both for the tired man and for the pregnant woman, and is often very exciting for the man. In this position, he can stimulate his partner's erogenous zones and her G-Spot.
The variant of this position, where both partners are lying on their side, is even more comfortable : all the woman has to do is to raise her knees a little to facilitate the penetration from behind. And the man can easily caress her breasts and her clitoris.
Andromache's position, (where the woman sits astride the man), allows her to control the depth of penetration. Moreover, several variations can be made to the missionary position which avoid the pressure of the man's weight on the woman's belly and breasts : if he holds himself up by his arms, he can prevent his torso from pressing down on her.
Or, in a variation which is less tiring for him, and just as comfortable for her, she can lie at the edge of the bed with her feet on the ground, while he kneels at the foot of the bed, between her thighs. And after childbirth, the couple can come back to some of these positions for a little variety !
Alternatives: sexual intercourse without penetration
If complete intercourse nevertheless still becomes too uncomfortable towards the end of the pregnancy, you could still have oral sex, reciprocal masturbation, or sensual massages.
The latter will help relieve the pains and stiffness which pregnant women may feel. The man can also suck his partner's nipples, not only to give her pleasure but also to prepare her nipples for breast-feeding.
Medical contraindications
If you have previously had a miscarriage, ask your doctor if sexual intercourse is still OK, particularly during the first three months. He will probably tell you to avoid deep penetration, and to stop altogether if you show any signs which indicate a risk of miscarriage: bleeding in the first weeks of your pregnancy, or repeated cramps in your lower abdomen at some time during the first 6 months.
Also beware that the uterine contractions which accompany orgasm may sometimes trigger a miscarriage. In the second trimester of pregnancy, cramps and bleeding may indicate placenta problems: penetration and orgasms should be avoided. If cramps appear during the third trimester, it
may be a sign of premature labour. If your waters break cease all sexual activity, and consult your doctor immediately.
Though it is rare, there are some instances when your doctor may advise against having sex during pregnancy... if, for example:you have a history of premature birth or labour; your water has broken; you are bleeding; you have placenta previa, a condition in which part of the placenta covers the cervix; you or your partner has a sexually transmitted infection.
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Does Size Matter?
You bet it does: to the person looking at it, from right over top of it. That's right, the GUY! Most men are obsessed by size. We are all effected by what we consider normal and most men are influenced by what they “think” is normal. Well according to most studies, normal is 5 to 7 inches. Penises vary in size, colour and shape. They are long, wide, short, thin and bent or straight. There is no standard. And thank the powers that be that they are, as women are all a bit
different too, and even though a woman’s vagina can accommodate any size penis, penises are actually designed to “FIT”and “normal” just fits better.”
Now, to make it better for any man that considers himself to be smaller than that guy in the shower: take note that most but not all men’s members at rest are smaller than when erect and if you are in the locker room with someone you consider huge, just remember that that will likely not get much bigger. But that little guy in the corner (you?) with a button on a fur coat look, will likely impress his lover when he gets aroused.
Remember, it is not the size that matters, but what you do with it. Read other articles to find out more.
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Date Night
When was the last time that you went on a date: with you current partner? A real date where you picked them up with flowers, taken them out to dinner or a picnic? When we get busy with life, we forget to keep the home fires burning. Most of us can remember what it was like when we first met. That anticipation; that wonder of what was going to happen next and can my heart be contained in my chest, this feels so darn good.
If you want that feeling again and want to rekindle love and romance, try going on a date. If you cannot find an idea of what to do, just watch a chick flick. They do it all the time in the movies. Of course you could always purchase the book, “101 Quickies” or “52 Weeks of Romance” from Shadoe Intimates. We also have a few games to ignite that inferno.
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Fantasy Land
Fantasy is the way to get what you want without getting in trouble. You can fantasize about three ways, bondage, same sex or any other naughty thing. The best thing is that it is just that: a fantasy. It can stay in your head and never come out. Fantasies enhance your sexual experience. You can be whatever you want to: just close your eyes and dream.
If you are comfortable with your partner, you can share and they can play into your fantasy. She can dress up as a school girl. He can pretend to be a TV repair man. You can tie him up or he can meet you in a bar. Being creative keeps your relationship fresh.
How can Shadoe Intimates help? We sell a full line of costumes, shoes, wigs and playthings. We also sell books with fantasy stories that you can use as inspiration. Come see how we can help.
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Care & Feeding of your Plaything(toys)
We recommend using a toy cleaner, but if you choose not to purchase one you can use warm water and a bit of anti-bacterial soap. Air dry!
Most (but not all) silicone toys require a light dusting of talc (or even corn starch for people with sensitivity issues) after a wash and air dry to keep the smoothness of the silicone.
DO NOT use silicone lubricant on a silicone toy: Like will eat Like and you may wake up in the morning to your new toy melted into a pile of mush. Use only water based lube for a silicone toy!
DO NOT use Energizer, Duracell, or rechargeable batteries: toys have 1.5 V motors in them, and the stronger batteries are 1.9-2.0 V….this will cause your toys motor to burn out or not work at all….use cheaper batteries (nothing higher than 1.5V).But if you’d like to use the big name batteries we’d be happy to sell you a new toy!
DO NOT leave batteries in your toy after use. Remove them!
Also, waterproof does not mean hot tub safe. Your hot tub will EAT your toy.
If your toy came in a clamshell, keep it to store your toy. Soc fuzzies are no fun!
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Interesting Sex Facts
According to the Kinsey Institute, the biggest erect penis on record measures 13 inches. The smallest tops off at 1 3/4 inches. 
The most common fantasy is oral sex.
8% of us have regular anal sex.
60% of men and 54% of women have had a 1-night stand.
Women buy 4 out of every 10 condoms sold.
In 1609, a doctor named Wecker found a corpse in Bologna with two penises. Since then, there have been eighty documented cases of men similarly endowed.
Men say the average erect penis is 10″. Women say it’s 4″.
A female orgasm is a powerful painkiller (because of the release of endorphins), so headaches are in fact a bad excuse not to have sex.
Among the Mangaians of Polynesia, 18-year-old couples make love an average of three times a night, every night, until their thirties, when the weekly average drops to a mere 14.
1 in 3 of us have had an extramarital affair.
62% think there is nothing wrong with affairs.
56% of men have had sex at work.
The maximum speed at which erotic sensations travel from skin to brain has been clocked at 156 miles per hour.
A honeymooning couple are suing Holiday Inn for ten thousand dollars, claiming their sex life is now dysfunction because an employee mistakenly walked in on them on their wedding night.
At least 500 Americans die each year from asphyxia in an attempt to lessen oxygen flow to the brain in order to induce a more powerful orgasm.
England’s King Edward VII, a man of considerable heft, had a special table built so that he could comfortably engage in sexual intercourse.
29% of us are virgins when we marry.
The average sexual experience lasts about 39 minutes.
58% like dirty talk during sex.
22% rent porno flicks at least once.
Given today’s average frequency of sexual intercourse, it would take the typical American couple more than four years to try every one of the 529 positions described in the Kama Sutra.
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The Nose Knows
Pheremones work in mysterious ways. A freind of mine told me that when she was single that she did not masturbate. I told her that
is when I did and when I did, that is when I met men. Why? Pheremones. They don't know why they are attracted to someone but if you just finished exuding all those pheremones during masturbation, they just waft over the opposite sex and they WANT YOU.
Personal Example: I come home from work, and he is sitting with a grin on the sofa in the ugliest sweats, swigging back a coke, unshaven and watching the game and I WANT HIM. You guessed it, he was bored and took care of things while I was away and I could not keep my hands off him when I stepped in the door.
Don't know how it works but there are articles that will tell you more if you care to read them. Just remember that it does indeed work. So: single? Want someone in your life? Improve your chances: Masturbate Often.
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